A Mirror Better than Snow White’s Magic Mirror

We are all familiar with the step-mother in the fairytale “Snow White,” as well as her infamous line, “Mirror, mirror on the wall. Who is the fairest of them all?” Of course, she was looking for affirmation that she was, in fact, the fairest in all the land.  Imagine using a mirror, not to gaze adoringly at your own image, but instead to see how other people see you and how your actions impact other people.  Imagine this mirror as a safe space that mimics the real world, but as it is only a reflection, offers the opportunity to explore actions and reactions.  Such a mirror would allow you the opportunity to hone your interpersonal skills for a more beneficial experience in life. 

Group therapy is the closest thing you will ever get to such a mirror.  A microcosm of the world, existing in a safe space and for the purpose of improvement, belonging, relating, instilling hope, and yes, even relief.  United in a common goal (each person working toward the change he/she wants) and a commitment to confidentiality, group therapy offers a place to be known and accepted. Through sharing, members find relief from pain, hurt, shame, and stress.  Importantly, members also find a greater understanding of themselves through interaction and feedback. 

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The Dinner Table You Never Had

Was dinner time a place of love, safety, and belonging where your heart was filled up just as much as your stomach?

Or was dinner time a place of loneliness, sarcasm, and the sound of forks scraping plates?

I learned how to eat fast at our dinner table. The faster we would eat, the sooner dinner would be over. My siblings and I each had to share three things about our day. Once we figured out we could work the system, our responses became shortened to three words about our day. “Tired, busy, good.”

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How the Trial and Error of Group Therapy Creates Success

Throughout life we move fluidly from group to group. Entering, participating, and exiting multiple groups is part of life. Sometimes life’s groups intersect; other times, the group lacks any commonality in membership or topic.  I don’t quite remember the particulars, but being in a group can remind me of the movies from 4th & 5th grade science class.  You remember - the video where it’s just a screen full of cells merging and separating.

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